Neurodivergent Couples Therapy
In New York
with Ina Grix, LP, MA - Therapist
I am neurodivergent like you.
My unusually strong pattern recognition which lets me help couples see the hidden forces that hijack their best intentions.
I also teach other therapists how to recognize relational patterns.
Do you feel like you and your partner are speaking completely different languages?
Does one of you feel misunderstood while the other feels overwhelmed?
Many neurodivergent couples deeply care about each other, but end up feeling like enemies. Over time, misunderstandings pile up and the relationship starts to feel exhausting instead of supportive.
Neurodivergent Couples Come To Me With:
Misunderstood feelings + needs
Emotional misfires
Risky-feeling conversations
Escalating conflict
Masking
Different communication styles
Shutdown or overwhelm
“Most couples are not lacking love.
They are lacking translation.”
How I Treat Neurodivergent Couples
My role in neuro couples therapy is often that of an action-emotion-intention translator.
Many neurodivergent couples experience the relationship like two different operating systems trying to work together. Each person makes sense in their own internal logic, but the signals between them get scrambled.
In our work together, I help decode those signals.
I track patterns in real time, especially energetic highs and lows that drive connection or conflict. Instead of feeling like every disagreement is a threat, the relationship begins to feel more like solving a puzzle together.
Modalities I Use
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Helps uncover the deeper emotional patterns between partners so conflicts make sense instead of feeling random.
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Explains why we sometimes react to a partner as if they were someone from our past. This clarity reduces confusion and blame.
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Helps couples understand their different emotional needs for closeness, reassurance, or independence.
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Focuses on body sensations instead of arguments. This allows partners to share experiences without triggering defensiveness.
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Identifies younger parts of us that still carry emotional wounds and helps partners respond to each other with compassion.
“Some couples describe the work as an escape room for the relationship. Each breakthrough unlocks a new skill.”
When Different Brains Love Each Other
I help couples learn how each partner’s brain processes emotion, stress, and connection.
This shifts the emotional atmosphere.
After Therapy With Me, Couples Report
Clearer communication
Less emotional landmines
Being understood
Better emotional safety
New language for needs
Renewed intimacy
Shared direction again
Instead of feeling like adversaries,
couples begin to like teammates solving their mystery together.
About Ina Grix, LP, MA
I identify as neurodivergent, which is part of why I love working with couples whose minds work differently. When I was a child, I imagined becoming a translator between alien species. In many ways, this work is not so different
Today I am a Licensed Psychoanalyst and also teach psychoanalysis and transference at a postgraduate training institute in New York. Transference is the science of why we sometimes react to the people we love as if they were someone from our past.
Outside of therapy, I enjoy dancing, reading neuroscience and quantum physics papers, and learning new languages. I currently speak five.
My cat Charlie occasionally makes a cameo appearance during sessions.
Availability: I work with clients via Telehealth across New York because I’ve found that clients are on their “best behavior” in my office. My therapy works better when you’re learning in your environment.
Education, Credentials,
& Trainings
Licensed Psychoanalyst (LP), State of New York, Masters in Linguistics (MA)
Graduated in Psychoanalysis, Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training, New York
Faculty and Instructor, Psychoanalytic Training Program at the Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training
The Couple’s Institute, Developmental Model, Advanced Training
Over 10 years in clinical practice working with individuals and couples
3 Steps To Get Started
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Fill out the contact form to reach out. If this therapy is not the right fit, I will help connect you with someone who may be.
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We will schedule a short call to talk about your relationship and see if working together feels like the right step.
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In our first session we begin mapping the patterns in your relationship and identifying where your shared reality breaks down.